HOW TO AVOID CONFLICTS DURING THE HOLIDAYS

The end of the calendar year brings office parties, family gatherings and more, all of which can rign-in moments that include awkward confrontations.

I’d like to share some tips for dealing with such conflicts:

First and foremost, set and keep your objective in mind. Most likely your intention is to have a pleasant time with friends and family during holiday gatherings. With this in mind, it’s completely acceptable to simply avoid unpleasant exchanges that might happen while conversing. Instead, let it go and even walk away if necessary.

But what if someone is publicly stating things you believe to be inaccurate or expressing opinions you strongly disagree with. To be true to yourself, it’s completely fine to say something like “I disagree, but now’s not the time to get into it. Let’s move on.”

Other people may feel more comfortable with a response that acknowledges the remark but doesn’t express disagreement at the time. Something like, “I can tell that’s really important to you.” Such a comment can often be enough to avoid difficult disussions from escalating.

Overall, you can’t stop a co-worker or relative from being problematic, but you can control the way you choose to respond. Remember, most get togethers are only for a few hours and there are more important things to care about.

So, take a deep breath, be tolerant and most of all be grateful this holiday.